IMPROVE YOUR MARRIAGE!

5 “SIMPLE”
THINGS YOU CAN SAY
THAT MAKES
A “HUGE” DIFFERENCE!

"Therefore what God has joined together,
let man not separate
(Mark 10:9)."

#5.
"THANK YOU!"

"Thank you" is a common word used to symbolize respect and appreciation towards someone who does a "special" something for you.

"Thank you" generally implies that a person has gone above and beyond expectations.

The average married person will say "Thank you" to the person who bags their groceries, but not enough (if at all) to their spouse. Ironically, a spouse was designed to be a life partner.

The moment a couple says "I do" is the same moment they begin to say "I don't." During the "dating" phase, people generally always show their love and appreciation.

After marriage, the random acts of kindness that were once worthy of "Thanks" become an expectation. If your spouse does not do the things that were originally considered going above and beyond, it can lead to extreme criticism on BOTH ends.

"Why did you leave the grass undone....? You know you are suppose to do it once a week right?"

"You forgot to take out the garbage...AGAIN!"

"You use to be like......!!!!"

This is a character flaw that EVERYONE has. The average person never continuously thank God for the ability to walk, because it is an "expectation." Something most of us take for granted.
Step back and say "Thank you" to your spouse.

"Thank you for making dinner tonight!"
"Thank you for listening to me."
Thank you for being you!"

Married couples often take each other for granted. The "generous" things your spouse does, can quickly become an "expectation." Problems arouse on a regular basis because people take advantage of what they have, instead of appreciating what they have, they always want more. Your spouse is never going to feel motivated to go above and beyond if they do not feel appreciated for the "little" things.

You should never have to lose your right leg before you realize how important it is. Stop taking your spouse for granted!

TO GET MORE, YOU HAVE TO ACTIVELY GIVE MORE....

True love secrets revealed!

http://tehaskett.blogspot.com/2012/05/my-love-secrets-revealed.html

How to put your marriage first after children! 7 ways!

http://www.webmd.com/sex-relationships/features/7-ways-to-put-your-marriage-first

#4.

CONGRATULATIONS ON OUR PROMOTION!

You say the word "congratulations" to strangers all the time. When did you stop saying congrats to your spouse?

Notice that I used the word "OUR." Marriage is a partnership, not a competition. When your spouse succeeds in one area, so do you.
Fellas, if your wife makes more money than you, who cares? Be proud! Her achievements are your achievements. An increase in finance, should never equate to a decrease in the quality of marriage. Jealousy should never exist when one spouse excels. This is not just their moment, it is yours. Become a part of their success; support and encourage, even if your personal goals are not exactly where you would want them.
Congratulations needs to be shown more specifically to your spouse. Typically, a person will happily announce the achievements of their significant other, but fail to show this same gratitude towards their partner. Generally this form of "congrats" occurs out of "selfishness."

There is nothing wrong with sharing the accomplishments of your family with others, however, always show your happiness towards your spouse FIRST. If you brag about your spouse to others, without acknowledging them, you are using their achievements to make you appear better to the outside world.

"My sweetheart just got the greatest promotion! I am so proud of her....."

TELL HER FIRST! NOT YOUR CO-WORKERS! IF YOU "ONLY" SHARE YOUR SPOUSES ACCOMPLISHMENTS WITH OTHERS IT WILL QUICKLY TURN INTO SOMETHING YOU ARE TRYING TO ACCOMPLISH FOR YOURSELF...

"Look at what I married....I did good....."

WHERE DID THAT COME FROM????

Remember, success and money is never really enjoyable....ALONE....

"CONGRATS SWEETHEART!

WE DID IT!"

Why marriage matters?

http://www.whymarriagematters.org/

Find your local marriage counselor!

http://www.goodtherapy.org/find-marriage-counselors.html

#3.

"I 'M SORRY!!"

We say I am sorry all the time:

"Oops, I am sorry I bumped into you sir!'

"Oh, did I take that from you, I am sorry!"

"Oh crap, sorry I am late!"

If you feel obligated to tell a random person "sorry" for bumping into them, why are you unable to say those words to the person you are suppose to love the most?

Many people suffer from "pride." NO ONE likes to be wrong.

It is important to understand that it takes a stronger person to say "I'M SORRY."

"Pride goes before destruction, a haughty spirit before a fall

(Proverbs 16:18)."

"I am sorry if I hurt your feelings."

"I am sorry I accidentally broke your favorite glass."

"I am sorry....."

Never just say "I am sorry," PROVE IT! These words are meaningless without an effort to change.

No one is perfect!

"As it is written: “None is righteous, no, not one

(Romans 3:10)."

TAKE THE IMPORTANT STEP AND APOLOGIZE...SOMETIMES IT IS YOUR FAULT....

AND THESE TWO WORDS MAY HEAL YOUR MARRIAGE...

5 wonderful ways to say I am sorry and mean it!

#2.

"YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL!"

"What a beautiful baby!

"What a beautiful dress you are wearing!"

"You did a beautiful job!"

"I just got this new beautiful living room set!"

"Beautiful car!"

The word "beautiful" has become our fake way of asking "how are you doing?" Many people say it, but they do not mean it.

Top reasons why people use the word "beautiful."

They feel obligated (i.e. new baby, new hair cut, clothes, style, you look like you need it).
They want you to respond with a compliment towards them.
They find you less attractive than them. In many cases people take comfort in praising another person who they fell is "less" than them. It makes them feel better
They really mean it....

few REALLY mean it

few UNDERSTAND the term "Beauty."

Beauty is more than just an "outer" appearance, it should include "inner" as well.

Many things will affect our outer appearance, i.e. stress, age, car accidents, sickness, physical changes due to child birth etc. You have a lasting affect on your partners "inner" beauty. I am not going to lie and say that 'inner' beauty is the only thing we should care about. The longer you are with one person, the more our appearances change. This is inevitable. We should always strive to be the best WE can be.

"Our physical appearance is not an indication of who

they are on the inside. Our body is a shell that holds who we are."

When you fail to acknowledge the true "beauty" that your spouse possesses, it will cause them to develop a significant level of insecurity about your relationship.
Men are notorious for not telling their wives how beautiful they are. They often feel as though saying it once is enough. THIS IS FALSE! Women feel as though they change daily, and need constant reassurance that their husband finds them attractive.