TOP 5 signs your marriage is in DANGER!
WARNING
WARNING
WARNING
5 WARNING SIGNS YOUR
MARRIAGE
COULD BE
IN DANGER!
DANGER!
DANGER!
DANGER!
#5.
INFIDELITY!
INFIDELITY!
INFIDELITY!
INFIDELITY!
The foundation of any relationship is "trust" not love. Having a solid friendship and trust within a marriage is a vital key to sustain any relationship. There are many times when a couple may fight or argue, but they stand firm as a couple because they "trust" one another.
One of the quickest ways to end trust is by being unfaithful to your spouse.
Participating in a romantic relationship with another individual that is not your spouse, will put your marriage on the line. The "trust" that has existed formally, is now gone.
Infidelity can cause your partner to:
Lose respect for you
Lose trust (as mentioned earlier)
Lower their self-esteem by creating feelings of inadequacy.
Feel "alone" and "misunderstood" within the marriage.
Any person who is "unfaithful" to their partner is very insecure.
"I know I still got it now and I am 40 years old!"
An honest, secure and loving person would NEVER have to "cheat" to show the world he or she still has it going on.
If your partner is being "unfaithful" it is generally not the first time. People who inherently cheat, have usually cheated previously. This time they just got caught.
Never allow someone to blame you for their irresponsible behaviour.
If he or she cheats "with" you, they will cheat on you.
Think about your family AND YOU before you decide to leap into a relationship with another person.
BOTH MEN AND WOMEN CHEAT.....Unless every man who cheats is gay, then WHO DO YOU THINK HE IS CHEATING WITH?
Can this be fixed?
Can this be fixed?
Can this be fixed?
Can this be fixed?
Can this be fixed?
Personally, I find "infidelity" to be one of the highest forms of disrespect, however, if the victim is willing to stay, then there is a slight possibility the relationship can be mended.
Trust has to be rebuilt. The relationship will never be the same after the initial foundation of trust has been destroyed.
If you are the victim, you have to decide whether the person is sorry for what they have done, or upset because they were caught.
"Yet now I am happy, not because you were made sorry,
but because your sorrow led you to repentance.
For you became sorrowful as God intended
and so were not harmed in any way by us.
10 Godly sorrow brings repentance that
leads to salvationand leaves no regret,
but worldly sorrow brings death.
(2 Corinthians 7:9-11)."
There is nothing wrong with leaving your partner if you do not feel that the relationship can be fixed. Divorce should never be an option, however, infidelity is a matter of exclusion....(Heb. 13:4.).
Forgiveness and trust are two different things. You can forgive and still move on.
If you have children, divorce will hurt them, it is inevitable, but remaining in an "unhealthy relationship" will destroy them quicker. Children repeat what they see. Parents are one of the highest forms of leadership.
A destructive marriage WILL DESTROY YOUR CHILDREN!
Never seek revenge (Romans 12:19) on your partner, this will only hurt you, Stay faithful and true if you decide to stay in the relationship. Going back and forth is dangerous emotionally, spiritually and it can run a high potential for catching a sexually transmitted disease.
In this case a simple "I am sorry" is not enough. There has to be actions that follow this type of destructive behavior within a relationship.
#4.
LACK OF COMMUNICATION!
LACK OF COMMUNICATION!
LACK OF COMMUNICATION!
You thought he said one thing, he KNEW you said another....Welcome to the world of "lack of communication."
This happens within every relationship, including friends and family.
However, if a partner does not communicate at a healthy level it will become destructive...
YOU:""Honey, I told the kids they can go out with their friends this weekend to the mall."
YOUR SPOUSE: "They were grounded for what happened this past week and you are letting them go to the mall after I said no?? I feel like you do not respect me at all..."
YOU: "I wasn't thinking, I thought you said it was okay earlier?"
YOUR SPOUSE: "No I never did, YOU NEVER LISTEN TO ME!!"
Does this sound familiar????
This is just one of many examples of how a lack of communication can destroy your marriage.
Before marriage, a couple is always talking and asking about how each other is doing or feeling.
Marriage brings comfort, comfort can sometimes lead to neglecting our partners because we fail to listen.
Can this be fixed?
Can this be fixed?
Can this be fixed?
Absolutely! At some point in every relationship, this happens. If you feel that your spouse is not listening to you, set up a time where you can explain how you feel.
GUYS, PUT DOWN THE VIDEO GAMES AND TURN OFF THE TELEVISION WHEN YOUR WIFE IS TALKING.....
GUYS...SOMETIMES ALL YOUR WIFE WANTS IS FOR YOU TO LISTEN, NOT SOLVE THE PROBLEM...This is a common problem....
Not understanding each other is never an excuse to cheat, instead it is a reason to sit down listen to each other and grow your marriage.
Marital Tips!
Marital Tips!
Marital Tips!
Joining two people at any point is challenging, but can be rewarding.
Never go to bed angry
QUANTITY IS NOT QUALITY!!! 10 years of misery is not a great marriage, it just shows that both of you were too lazy to file the divorce paperwork.
Keep other people OUT of your relationship. Marriage is sacred, therefore certain details should be shared only between each other.
If you are talking to anyone more than your spouse, there is a problem. The person with whom you communicate the most should always be your spouse.
Have date nights!
Call each other beautiful!
Talk about NOW and not how it use to be.
Never disrespect each other's family, but always put other people AFTER your marriage.
Never stop being affectionate.
Encourage your friend or family member to learn the potential hardships, PRIOR, to taking the big leap. Divorce can happen when people have unrealistic expectations of "marriage."
MAKE YOUR PARTNER YOUR BEST FRIEND....
#3.
FINANCE!
FINANCE!
FINANCE!
This is a biggie! Finance is one of the leading cause of divorce.
Couples can cheat financially...
Not telling your husband about those new outfits you paid for...."Oh honey, this old thing? I have had it for months now!"
Ladies, IT IS STILL NEW IF YOU HIDE IT IN THE CLOSET FOR MONTHS AND TAKE IT OUT.....Maybe new to him!
Fellas....ABOUT THAT GAME PURCHASE.....????
People who can not handle their finances are destined to divorce...this is a fact.
Financial strain creates:
arguments
separation
sadness
depression
unhappy children
unhappy marriage
DIVORCE....
Can this be fixed?
Can this be fixed?
Depending on your financial strain, it may take longer to fix, however, their is hope in this situation.
Sit down and openly discuss what each of you are spending.
Decide where the money is going
Set up a financial plan to help pay off bills
Visit a financial advisor, it may cost money, but so will your divorce.
Divorce is ALWAYS going to make your finances worse in the long run....
#2.
NOT PUTTING YOUR
MARRIAGE
FIRST!
Marriage should come first not sometimes, maybe or a little bit, BUT ALWAYS!!!
IF A MARRIAGE IS NOT PUT FIRST...YOU WILL DIVORCE, NO QUESTIONS ASKED!
"Hey, I am going out with the guys tonight....I know you just lost your job but I just needed to go out. You going to be okay?"
"We don't need a date night anymore! We got kids now! They come first!"
"Ummm, I think not! I am seeing my family this weekend, I am super sorry I can't make it to your gallery opening. Love you??????"
These are a few examples of many......
Putting anyone or anything above your spouse is disrespectful and hurtful.
If you are trying to make a decision for the household, always ask yourself how will this affect my spouse?
Decisions that create a negative impact on a marriage...IS THE WRONG DECISION!
When two people marry, they become one, anything that separates that, should automatically not be the answer.
Many people have children, THEY DO NOT COME BEFORE YOUR MARRIAGE!
A couple is neglecting their children, when they fail to put their marriage first.
Happy parents equal happy children.
Kids love to see their parents happy together. Divorce is destructive for them. A couple should never remain together "for the kids sake" however, parents set a strong and lasting impression on the development of future relationships.
#1.
DIVORCE IS NOT AN OPTION!
DIVORCE IS NOT AN OPTION!
DIVORCE IS NOT AN OPTION!
DIVORCE IS NOT AN OPTION!
IT WILL HAPPEN!
IT WILL HAPPEN!
If failure is an option...IT WILL HAPPEN!
If divorce is an option...IT WILL HAPPEN!
Keep the words "divorce" out of your relationship, AT ALL TIME!
NEVER threaten divorce!
Arguments and disagreements are normal and healthy, bringing up divorce during these times...is not.
If you are considering a prenup:
What is the prenup for? Is this your second marriage and you or your partner would like to ensure that each of your children get what is rightfully theirs without hassle?
Are you getting a prenup/postnup to prepare for divorce.....YOU HAVE ALREADY OPENED UP THE DIVORCE DOOR....
"Neither give place to the devil
(Ephesians 4:27)."
DIVORCE IS NOT AN OPTION!
DIVORCE IS NOT AN OPTION!
DIVORCE IS NOT AN OPTION!
DIVORCE IS NOT AN OPTION!
I hate divorce," says the LORD God of Israel
(Malachi 2:16)."
WRITTEN BY: TE-SHANDRA HASKETT, MBA
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