No one likes to feel rejected, and having someone break up with you feels like the ultimate form of rejection. You may find yourself questioning what you did wrong or if you are a good person. You may become depressed and hopeless. Everyone needs some form of acceptance in life and getting dumped will all of a sudden take you down a few notches in your self-esteem.
Is this fair?
NO. If you are the subject of someone getting dumped it is extremely easy to fall into the categories that were described above. Unless you were abusive or controlling, it was probably nothing more than a break-up. Do not analyze the situation and never seek to get back into a relationship with someone who chose not to be with you. Many individuals regret breaking up with a particular individual simply because they start to get lonely. If you do not want to be a standby until your lover finds someone new, it is time to move on.
For the LORD will not reject his people; he will never forsake his inheritance (Psalm 94:14)
5 WAYS TO MOVE ON!
#5.
IGNORE THE PEOPLE WHO
CONTINUE TO TELL YOU,
THERE ARE OTHER FISH IN THE SEA!
This is a very factual statement, but if you currently just got dump, this is one of the last statements you want or need to hear. Choose the people that you hang out with wisely. Be around a crowd of people who will not just tell you those words, but express more empathy and understanding. In all fairness, sometimes when people are not currently experiencing what you are dealing with, they tend to be at a loss of words. All we know is that the rhyme "other fish in the sea" can make you feel more depressed because you do not care about the other fish you want the fish that swam away!
#4
FIND A NEW HOBBY!
The best case scenario for this situation is to always keep your mind busy. If you sit around all day with nothing to do, the chances of you feeling lonely and depressed will never leave. Stay active! Join a new group of people who have similar interest and just have fun. You will actually catch yourself accidentally having fun, WITHOUT your ex.
#3
NO REBOUND DATES!
If it has been within 24 hours of a breakup then you probably should not be dating a bunch of different people. Your heart and mind need to have the opportunity to mend the broken pieces. Also, choosing to be single for a while will ensure that you are not just dating out of pure loneliness. This is the time to get to know who you are as an individual again and realize that you are special. Rebound boyfriends and girlfriends are a no no, and they only lead to additional break-ups...
#2
FIND SOME NEW
HANG OUT SPOTS!
Wherever you choose to have a great time, try to avoid the places where you know your ex will be. Now, you do not have to do this forever, but it is wise simply give yourself space from his or her face. Being around his/her friends will be a constant memory of all of the great times you probably did not have. (People tend to exaggerate how wonderful their relationships were when they have broken up, only usually that was NEVER the case). In many cases, the guy or gal you were dating has a similar group of friends then you do. It is okay to remain friends with your old friends, but if your friend sincerely respected you, they would develop some activities where there will not be any chances of you accidentally running into your ex. Oh yeah, and if you do happen to run into your ex, make sure you are wearing a smile!
#1
THROW AWAY
THOSE SPECIAL ITEMS!
Or just put them away. Whenever you walk into your house, you do not need a constant reminder about what you guys both did for each other. This can make you sad and lonely again. If you choose not to throw them away, clear everything away and put it into a box somewhere you will not be tempted look. This is something that you to not have to do, but, after 3 months, go back to that same box and acknowledge your emotions. They will probably not be as strong as they were initially. This is because, with time and work, time may not heal the wounds, but time gives you the ability to accept what was probably for the best and was never meant to be.
BOTTOM LINE: There is someone out there for you. Sometimes break-ups are not anyone's fault. A couple may just grow up and grow apart. Instead of weeping, count your lucky stars in heaven that both of you were probably not the right fit and it is far better to find the RIGHT person, than it is to stick with the WRONG person.
This God—his way is perfect; the word of the Lord proves true; he is a shield for all those who take refuge in him (Psalm 18:30)
BY THE WAY,
THERE ARE OTHER
FISH IN THE SEA...
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