TOP 12 INSULTS WE SAY TO LADIES WITHOUT KNOWING...

And what we should have said.....

 

 

 

 

INSULT #12:

 

 

•  WHAT YOU PROBABLY SAID: "You have such a pretty face."
• WHAT YOU DID WRONG: This statement is often said to beautiful fuller women. It can come across as insulting because you are actually telling them they have a bad figure and  just a pretty face.
• WHAT YOU SHOULD HAVE SAID: What is wrong with just telling a person they are pretty? Would you ever say this to a skinny woman? Probably not.....

 INSULT # 11:

• WHAT YOU PROBABLY SAID: "You look good for your age."
• WHAT YOU DID WRONG: You actually just implied that they are older. Most people who give this compliment DO NOT KNOW THE ACTUAL AGE OF THE PERSON!

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  And what age is that?

  WHAT YOU SHOULD HAVE SAID:  Just tell that person he/she looks great. What's wrong with that? There are plenty of beauties in every age group.
•  SIDE NOTE: Women do not only want to appear younger, they also want people to believe they are younger.

 

 

INSULT # 10:

• WHAT YOU PROBABLY SAID: Have you lost weight? You look great!
• WHAT YOU DID WRONG:  This is just implying that you previously thought this person was fat and needed to lose weight. It could also indicate that you did not believe they were initially attractive  And....did I mention that you were actually calling them fat??
• WHAT YOU SHOULD HAVE SAID: A simple...".You look extra nice! Did you do something different with your hair?" This will definitely make someones day and they will probably offer you the information themselves. In other words, they will smile at you and say "Thanks! I lost a bit of weight."

 

 

INSULT # 9:

• WHAT YOU PROBABLY SAID: "Are you pregnant?"
• WHAT YOU DID WRONG: You saw this person and they appear to have gained a little weight in that area. Or maybe they recently had a child and their body has not had time to adjust.? This just makes a woman feel....bad....especially if she is not pregnant.
• WHAT YOU SHOULD HAVE SAID:  If you see someone you think may be pregnant, simply tell her she is aabsolutely glowing. Depending on how many months a lady is, she may actually volunteer that information to you, based on this compliment.

 

INSULT # 8:

• WHAT YOU PROBABLY SAID: "You have pretty hair.....Is it fake?"
• WHAT YOU DID WRONG:  Everything!!! If you ask a gal if her hair is fake, then you are secretly saying her hair looks too good to belong to her.
• WHAT YOU SHOULD HAVE SAID: "Love your hair!"  Why?? Because, real or fake, if it looks good, it looks good. Not to mention, this is none of your business!

INSULT # 7:

• WHAT YOU PROBABLY SAID: "Nice outfit....Did you make that yourself?"
• WHAT YOU DID WRONG: Umm....you really do not think it looks that great if you are insinuating it looks home made.
• WHAT YOU SHOULD HAVE SAID: "Nice outfit!" Short and sweet.

 

INSULT # 6:

• WHAT YOU PROBABLY SAID: "You look pretty in that picture:"
• WHAT YOU DID WRONG: Telling a person they look good only in that picture...Well, what about the other pictures??
• WHAT YOU SHOULD HAVE SAID: "Great pic!"

 

INSULT # 5:

•  WHAT YOU PROBABLY SAID: "You look nice today."
• WHAT YOU DID WRONG: What about the other days? Let's face it, this is clearly pointing out that you normally do not think they look good...just today.
• WHAT YOU SHOULD HAVE SAID: "You look especailly nice today!"

 

 

INSULT # 4:

•  WHAT YOU PROBABLY SAID: "What a cute couple you guys make. When is the wedding?"
• WHAT YOU DID WRONG: They may not be a couple at all. And even if they are together as a couple, their could be someone in that relationship that is desperately wanting to marry the other, but the feeling is not mutual. Every time they hear this question, it may hurt their feelings.
• WHAT YOU SHOULD HAVE SAID: NOTHING! If they are a couple, let one of them tell you. Ditto for marriage.

 

INSULT # 3:

•  WHAT YOU PROBABLY SAID: "You are pretty for a black girl (or any other specific race)."
• WHAT YOU DID WRONG: You just told them their culture is ugly.
• WHAT YOU SHOULD HAVE SAID: "You are pretty"....END OF SENTENCE....

INSULT # 2:

•  WHAT YOU PROBABLY SAID: "How old are you?"

• WHAT YOU DID WRONG: NEVER ask a lady her age. Always let her decide to volunteer that information. And if you guess....LOW BALL IT....
• WHAT YOU SHOULD HAVE SAID: NEVER ASK A LADY HER AGE...

  THE NUMBER ONE INSULT:

•  WHAT YOU PROBABLY SAID: "How much do you do you weigh?"

 

 

• WHAT YOU DID WRONG:  EVERYTHING!!!!
• WHAT NEEDS TO HAPPEN: At this point you obviously need an etiquette class on the appropriateness of questions. KEEP YOUR MOUTH SHUT UNTIL YOU TAKE THAT CLASS!

THERE IS POWER IN YOUR TONGUE.......

 

 

“Reckless words pierce like a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing (Proverbs 12:19).”

 

 

Written By: Te-Shandra Haskett, MBA

Nice outfit?
Did you make it yourself?

ALWAYS FEEL PRETTY LADIES! 
 ALWAYS IGNORE THE INSULTS

 

 

 

 

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