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SECRETS EXPOSED!

WHAT YOUR FAMILY MEMBER IS LYING ABOUT....
 AND WHY!


"Do not lie to one another, seeing that you have put off the
 old self with its practices and have put on the new self,
 which is being renewed in knowledge after the image of its creator
(Colossians 3:9-10)."



#5.
"WE ARE DOING GREAT FINANCIALLY!"
  • It is no secret that America is currently facing a serious economic crisis. Many people are losing their homes, families and their sense of security.
  • On a regular basis, the average person will continuously exaggerate their salary. Generally, if someone is making 50,000 a year, they are probably making significantly less.


Forbes: American average salary!
Additional Information on American salary!



SIGNS A PERSON IS "LYING" ABOUT THEIR FINANCES:
  • Constantly talk about how well they are doing financially.
  • Enjoys showing any new items they may have bought.
  • Highly degrading towards other people.
    • "You know WE just bought this LOVELY new home...it may be slightly bigger than yours....?"
  • Tendencies to show an extremely negative attitude towards the poor.
  • May become very withdrawn from close friends and families because they are "fearful" that someone will discover the truth.
  • May come across as being arrogant and self-centered.
  • Can not stop talking about money......

"Whoever loves money never has money enough; whoever
loves wealth is never satisfied with his income.
This too is meaningless
(Ecclesiastes 5:10)."

WHY ARE THEY LYING?

  • Unfortunately, our society has trained us to believe that  success is gauged on the amount of money or material items an individual has acquired.
    • They believe....
      • Money" is everything!
      • "Without money, you are a loser!
      • "I am a loser because I can not handle my finances! I do not want anyone to know
      • "Without fashionable material items...you are poor!
      • Without money, I have failed!"
  • Americans look down on the poor, but admire the rich and famous.
  • Our society says, "WHAT WE DO DEFINES WHO WE ARE."
  • Competition...
    • against you!!!
  • Embarassment about their spending habits.
  • "Misery loves company."
    • They aim to make others feel bad, so they can feel good.

Why I am more successful than you!
I am so jealous of....
Have you ever wished someone would STOP talking....??




HOW TO HELP YOUR "LYING" FAMILY MEMBER:
  • Many people feel uncomfortable approaching this sensitive topic. Depending on how close the relationship, you may want to intervene and ask them specifically if their is anything they need support with. However, if you are uncomfortable with confrontation, it is best to reassure them that you are there for them if they need you.
    • BEING A FRIEND/FAMILY DOES NOT MEAN YOU LOAN MONEY! NO! NO! NO! NEVER
    • Be careful! If you are prone to give away money because you have a hard time saying "no"....HELP FROM A DISTANCE.
  • A family member in financial ruin can be contagious. Do not let it!
    •  IF YOU ARE GOING TO HELP OUT, GIVE THEM THE MONEY AND DO NOT EXPECT IT BACK IN RETURN!
  •  IF YOU BELIEVE IN GOD, PRAY FOR THEM AND YOU!

Why you do not have the finer things in life!


THE BEST DECISION......
IF YOU ARE THE LIAR.....


Find your local therapist!


  • Recognize that success is not contingent upon the things that you have.
  • It is okay to have rough paths in your life and allow certain people to know.
  • Ask for financial advice if you need it.
"Pride goes before destruction, a haughty spirit before a fall (Proverbs 16:18)."
  • YOU ARE NOT DEFINED BUT HOW MUCH YOU MAKE OR WHAT YOU EARN IN THIS LIFE, BUT HOW MANY LIVES YOU INSPIRE, EVEN IF IT IS ONLY "ONE."
  • Stop comparing!
  • Concentrate on getting out of debt immediately!


FOR MORE INFORMATION ON HOW TO HANDLE FINANCES:
You make FOOLish financial decisions!



#4. 
"OUR RELATIONSHIP IS PERFECT!"


THIS IS THE PERFECT MAN!!!

Ladies, we must have married the SAME man!


  • Divorce rates are high!
  • Relationships are hard and NEVER perfect!
  • If they are living on earth, they got problems. NO FURTHER QUESTIONS.

BEWARE!  

THE TRUTH WILL ALWAYS BE REVEALED!


"For whatever is hidden is meant to be disclosed,
 and whatever is concealed is meant to be
 brought out into the open(Mark 4:22)."



SIGNS A PERSON IS "LYING" ABOUT THEIR RELATIONSHIPS:
  • Constant bragging about how perfect their relationship is.
    • Posting pictures of the "happy" couple all the time.
    • Writing extensive facebook messages about their happy life.
    • Overly enthusiastic about their partner and their accomplishments
      • "Oh we have the BEST relationship! He is soo perfect! Have you heard about his new job. I am super proud!"
OKAY, THEY ARE EITHER LYING OR DELUSIONAL......YOU CHOOSE....

WHY ARE THEY LYING?
  • They are trying to convince themselves that their relationship is going well.
    • Many people find it hard to face their own relationship problems.
  • Jealousy and competition with other people who they feel have a stronger "marriage" or relationship. 
  • A sour relationship equates to being a "failure" in the eyes of many.
    • "Why couldn't they make their marriage work?"



HOW TO HELP YOUR "LYING" FAMILY MEMBER:
  • ALWAYS STAY OUT OF THE RELATIONSHIP!
    • Do not give advice!
    • Do not challenge their relationship!
    • Never try to intentionally break up any relationship!
    • Never say anything derogatory against their significant others.
    • Did I mention stay out of it????????
  • MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS! GET IN THE MIDDLE OF "TWO" AND YOU WILL FIND YOURSELF BEING THE "ONE"  LEFT OUT IN THE COLD......

For current and future mother in laws, or anyone who has family!
http://tehaskett.blogspot.com/2012/05/for-current-and-future-mother-in-laws.html



IF YOU ARE THE LIAR
  • If you are married, try to fix the problem. Marriage is hard for EVERYONE!  With work and dedication it is highly probable to have a peaceful and loving marriage.
  • ALWAYS leave "cheaters and beaters....."
  • Be careful who you share your relationship issues with. Sometimes it is actually a good idea NOT to share this information with a family member. Family members can become very biased in specific situations. Constantly revealing negative issues regarding the person you are with, can lead to destruction. While you may move on and forgive quickly, sometimes your family member may continue to bring up the past. This can cause major damages!
  • IT IS OKAY TO SEEK OUTSIDE COUNSELING!
  • If you are dating with major issues going on:
    • Postpone marriage until both of you figure out what is best.
    • Marriage does not fix problems!!!!! It escalates the situation.
    • Babies do not fix problems!!!!!
    • YOU FIX YOUR PROBLEMS....


5 simple things you can do to improve your marriage!


#3.
 "I DON'T CARE WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK!"


Some people care less, others care more, but
EVERYONE wants someone to admire them!


SIGNS A PERSON CARES WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK:
  • Always saying "I DON'T CARE WHAT YOU THINK!"
  • Constantly complimenting other people.
    • If they give you a compliment, they expect it returned!
  • Every action is done to give the appearance that they are a "wonderful" person.
    • i.e. if they do something special for someone, it has to be publicized.
    • Does things for constant attention and feedback...this includes YOUR FACEBOOK POSTS!


  • Talking about their achievements at an unhealthy level.
    • "I just won the noble peace prize!!! Isn't that great!"
  • Using the personal achievements of others for their own personal gain.
    • "Selfish."
      • "Bobby, I know him! Yeah we are super close! Did you hear he may be our next president?"
      • "Did I mention how close Bobby and I are?"

WHY ARE THEY LYING?

  • They want everyone to believe that they are a "strong person."
    • Society says, if you care too much about what other people think....you must have low self-esteem....BUT..
  • They have low-self esteem...THE IRONY!



How to detect a liar!
IF YOU ARE THE LIAR...

Don't lie to him......
  • Stop competing!
  • Start loving yourself!
  • When you STOP caring about what other people think, They will START caring about what you say!

How to not care what people think!
http://www.wikihow.com/Not-Care-What-People-Think
I can tell what your friends are saying about you!

# 2.
 "SUPER HAPPY FOR YOU!!!!"


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Can't you tell by my expression!!!!
  • They may be happy for you, but the average person is competitive. Most people do not enjoy others exceeding above them.
  • There is a lot of competition that exists "especially" amongst family members (sibling rivalry).
It is possible to be happy for someone and jealous at the same time.SIGNS THEY ARE NOT HAPPY FOR YOU!
  • Congratulating you too much!
    • "I am soooooooo happy for you!"
  • Bringing the conversation back to their own personal accomplishments.
  • Always trying to one up you.
    • Usually by constant degrading.
  • Not congratulating you at all...or....
  • Telling everyone else how happy they are for you.....



WHY ARE THEY LYING?

  • They do not want to appear jealous or envious.
  • People who display this personality dysfunction care about how others see them. If they suggest in any way that they are not the proud doting family member, IT COULD MAKE THEM LOOK BAD!
  • Competition!

IF YOU ARE THE LIAR...
  • Learn to praise another person for their accomplishments.
  • Love yourself enough to STOP COMPARING!
  • Understand that you are unique and special...there is no one like you.
  • If you remain too busy feeling jealous about the accomplishments of other people, you will miss every potential blessing that could come your way.
  • Understand the value of relationships and money.
  • Money is nothing, Family is everything!
  • Mo Money, Mo Problems!
  • Thank God for what you currently have. Appreciate it and strive to be the best YOU can be.


#1.
"I AM DOING FINE!"
  • No one wants people to know when they are struggling, especially if they are enemies.
    • If they say they never have problems...THEY ARE LYING!

"I have told you these things, so that in me you may have peace.
 In this world you will have trouble. But take heart!
I have overcome the world
 (John 16:33)."


SIGNS A PERSON IS NOT DOING  FINE!
  • Consistently boasting about how perfect their life is.
    • "Oh my life is sooo wonderful!"
  • Constantly comparing their life to other people.
  • Highly degrading towards your achievements or the accomplishments of others.
  • They may become very distant.
    • Phone calls cease
    • Emails cease
    • Posting too many thrilled pictures on facebook.
  • Can become easily offended by an offhand comment.
    • "Oh I heard your neighborhood was hit really bad by that tornado! Are you guys going to be okay?"
    • "Aren't you spending a bit too much on that."
  • Never compliments others, only criticizes.

WHY ARE THEY LYING?
  • Competition
  • Jealousy
  • Too much pride!
  • Anyone who is not always doing "fine" is generally thought of as being weak.......




STRENGTH IS:
  • Caring for another person.
  • Acceptance.
  • Honesty, even if it jeopardizes "friendship" or  their character.
  • Respecting the opinion of others.
  • Showing hurt and pain.

"I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties.
 For when I am weak, then I am strong
(2 Corinthians 12:10)."

STRENGTH IS LOVE....
  • The strongest people in this world are not those who claim to have the "perfect" life. They are the people who can expose their private struggles with others.
    • "They encourage not discourage."
    • "They embrace with their emotions."
    • "They cry with you!"
  • You can not experience strength, without understanding love. 
  • Love and strength are choosing to let down your barriers and share your personal struggles just for a "chance" to inspire "one." It takes phenomenal strength to allow your enemies to see your rough patches in life. We are always taught to smile in the face of our enemies!
    • "Smile if it kills you!
    • Our greatest fear as a human being is having multiple people disapprove or your enemies laugh. 
  • When a person becomes strong, they become "loving." They choose to accept the laughter, pain and rejection that will follow after they reveal their personal pain with others.
Why???


TRUE LOVE AND STRENGTH IS FORGETTING ABOUT YOURSELF AND HOW OTHERS WILL VIEW YOU  JUST FOR A CHANCE TO INSPIRE "ONE."


What greater way to show strength, love and character than to lay down your life, just to help save someone you may never know.....



"Greater love has no one than this, that he lay down his life for his friends
(John 15:13)."




 
 
WRITTEN BY: TE-SHANDRA HASKETT, MBA

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